Having fit friends can help you reach your goals

I’ve learned a lot of important lessons in my nutrition and fitness journey, but it always seems like I’m learning more. And in recent months I’ve learned a new lesson that I wish I would have learned sooner.

For years I felt so alone in my nutrition journey, trying to avoid food related with my paleo friends, and feeling frustrated that my “thin” friends didn’t get it…

What I really needed was a community of people with the same mission, the same goals, and the same values. It’s only been recently that I’ve connected with great people who believe in sanity and sustainability over awful diets, and let me tell you, it’s changed my life.

Who I am is a reflection of who I associate with

There’s a quote that says “Show me your friends, and I will show you your future” and I can’t agree more. Every time I’ve felt trapped in a diet mindset and unable to break free, I’ve seen that there were influences in my life who weren’t helpful. Every time I valued my physical appearance as my only worth as a person, it’s because my friends viewed themselves the same way. Every time I’ve struggled to stick with goals, it’s because some influences in my life were bringing me down.

Not that I am blaming anyone else for my behavior, but that my thoughts and actions were very heavily influenced by the people around me, and to become the best version of me, I can choose who will be a part of my daily interaction.

In truth, you ARE the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

So what does that mean? Do we cut off all ties to our body-shaming relative? Or our best friend from high school who can’t stop talking about juice fasting? Or the girlfriend who always wants to go out for ice cream?

Not at all! You can still invite them to be part of your life… just be sure that you intentionally seek out, and spend even more time with the people who are helping you become who you want to be. It means we can choose to spend more time with the people in our lives who are lifting us up.

If you want to go far, go together…

Here’s something for you to do right now. Take an inventory of the 5 people who are most frequent in your life. Ask yourself, are you happy with being the average of those five people? If not, find people to add to the list (or even a whole community) who will bring you closer to where you want to be.

PS this is why group coaching > one on one coaching… an entire group of people working on the same goals together leads to some pretty powerful motivation. If you’re interested, there are just 2 spots left in the Youtrition Food & Fitness Freedom program.

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