Last week I sent an email officially declaring 2015 YOUR year, and I asked you to set some goals for what you want to see happen for you by the end of next year, and I LOVED the responses that I received. Hopefully, even if you didn’t add your comment, you still took some time to think about this for yourself.
Now I want to share with you a goal that I set a few years ago that changed everything for me…. And was my last new resolution ever.
I was newly married, and I was miserable. No, not because of my husband (he’s actually pretty awesome), but because so much of my life revolved around food: planning what I would eat, trying to avoid food, craving sweets, weighing myself, searching for recipes to recreate my favorite foods in a “healthy” way, reading up on the latest and greatest diet, fad “science” (in quotation marks because it was really pseudoscience). I had very little brain space left for anything else, I was struggling in my job, my husband wasn’t getting much attention, and I all but isolated myself from friends and family… or maybe they avoided me because they were afraid I would be preaching the dangers of legumes to them instead of enjoying a fun lunch.
What started out as an attempt to improve my life had taken over my life.
It’s interesting how we always think that losing weight will be the key to our happiness, yet we embark on a process that destroys every ounce of happiness we have in our lives along the way. And lets be honest, this strategy just won’t work (for more on that, check out this post).
So that year, I set a new goal. And the goal was simply this: I decided that I wanted to eat in a way that would nourish my whole life, not just my body.
Now, a nourished life can mean a lot of things to a lot of people, but there were specific things that I had in mind.
The more obvious: I wanted great energy, I wanted to feel great, I wanted to look great.
But beyond that I also wanted to be able to connect with friends over lunch, have time to enjoy the outdoors, to read good books, to be fully present when with my husband, to connect spiritually… all things that were suffering because of my laser like focus on the perfect body.
So I started creating strategies and making choices to align my eating to reflect what I wanted out of life, not just what I wanted for my body.
- I didn’t want to spend all of my free time in the kitchen or in the gym – I wanted to have more time to spend with the people I love, and do the things that matter to me.
- I didn’t want to feel guilty about eating a brownie or a reasonable treat from time to time — I wanted to be the kind of person who could have just one, enjoy it, and move on.
- I didn’t want to feel beholden to calorie charts, lists of foods, or the latest fad– I wanted to understand and honor my body and end the day feeling like I did what was right for me, not feel guilty that I couldn’t stick to someone else’s rules.
So I asked myself often: is my way of eating and thinking about food bringing me closer to or further from a nourished life? (I still check in with myself on this question regularly)
The end result – I actually was able to create a lifestyle that worked to help me reach my goals in the long term, and I was able to end the madness of the up and down yo-yo.
If you’re ready to create goals that transform your body and your life, download my FREE 2016 goals planner. This planner will help you see the big picture of what you want to accomplish in 2016, uncover your internal motivation, and determine which action steps will align with your goals so that you can move forward with the confidence that you will reach your goals this year.
I want to hear from you:
Aside from what you eat, what does a nourished life mean to you? What specific things, activities, or goals would you include in your nourished life?
Let me know in the comments below