Over my years of coaching clients on weight loss, I’ve learned a few things about the people who struggle with their relationship with food.
They give their all to their families, their children, their spouse, their job, their social obligations, their friends and acquaintances.
Natural givers who put the needs of others above themselves without thinking twice.
It’s likely you’re a giver too.
There’s a lot to admire about someone who is willing to think about the needs of others, but sometimes, when we forget about our own needs, it can easily backfire.
I used to be what I would consider a “self-depleting giver.” I ignored my own needs, and my own desires to be the best wife, friend, employee, daughter, sister that I could be. And I found myself running out of steam then drowning myself in a box of Little Debbie snacks to try to fill myself up.
It wasn’t until I recognized my needs and my desires that I was able to give from a place of abundance, and be better for myself and for those around me.
I see this happen all too often. We give until there’s nothing left, then continue to try to give, only to find ourselves falling short. We then turn to food in an attempt “fill up,” only to find that we don’t feel better. So we keep eating, hoping that eventually we will feel like we’ve had enough… and that we are enough.
And honestly, I’m sick of it.
I’m sick of seeing awesome people–well intentioned people–run themselves into the ground, burned out, and not feeling like they are enough, then turn to food for support.
So here’s what we’re going to do:
I’m declaring 2015 YOUR year.
The year that YOU create what you want in your life, your health, your fitness, your self care, so that you can give from a place of abundance, instead of a place of depletion.
And it starts with knowing WHAT you want.
So I want to hear from you, what is it that you really want?
When I ask a new coaching client what she (or he) really wants, it usually starts something like this:
- I want to cut out sugar
- I want to stick to a diet
- I want to go to the gym every day.
And I can’t help but ask, “really?” is that REALLY what you want? Because I really don’t know too many people that think, “hey, cutting out sugar sounds like fun” or “I want to spend an hour of my busy day walking on a human hamster wheel that doesn’t get me anywhere”
So what do you really want? Let’s dig a little deeper.
In a year from now, what do you imagine your life will look like?
- What goals will you have reached?
- What is your day to day life like?
- What new healthy habits do you have?
- What does your relationship with food look like?
- What fills you with happiness and joy?
In my next email, I’m going to share with you one of my goals from a few years ago that sparked a massive transformation in my body and my relationship with food.
But in the meantime, I want to hear from you.
What are your goals for 2015?
Let me know in the comments below